At one point or another, your child will have the curiosity and experiment with lying. When this happens, there is no need to panic. Although it could sound a bit ironic, lying is actually an essential part of any child’s development.
All kids will have the drive to test the limits in order to find out how far their wit can bring them – kids will push until they know what they can and cannot get away with. Keeping that in mind will help you avoid take the lies that your kids tell you, personally.
Contrary to common belief, punishing your kid for lying is actually the worst thing that you can do. In fact, the fastest way to create a liar is by punishing one for lying. So instead of resorting to punishment, whenever your kid tells you something untrue focus on the values that you want to teach. If you want your son to stop lying, teach him how to be honest, and give him the chance to aim for it.
For example you caught your son lying the first time and he insisted that he was telling you the truth. Do not be easily fooled by their cute little eyes and innocent smiles, as a parent, you should know better. If you know that your child is lying no matter how convincing he may sound, think of something that will make him feel that telling the truth can do better things that telling a lie.
One example is by telling your child that your hearts are actually joined together by a hundred invisible threads and that every time he lies to you, he cuts one of these threads and cut a connection between your hearts.
The more he lies, the more threads are cut. And if he keeps on lying, you will be completely separated from each other. However, when he chooses to tell you the truth, the threads will grow thicker and stronger, until they become impossible to cut.
When you deliver the values that you want to inculcate in your child’s mind, be sure that you sound sincere and warm. Instead of spanking your child into being honest, help him make his way towards telling the truth. That way, telling the truth makes him develop a sense of authenticity. And since being authentic makes him feel connected to himself and those he loves, he will be encouraged to tell the truth at all times.
As a parent, it is your job to keep your kids honest. But that does not mean using violence and a hard fist for your kids to take the right path. Be in the right mind and do not take the lies personally, because after all, kids will always be kids.
By: Katherine Thompson
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ETIKA AKADEMIS
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